WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON’T HEAL BEFORE MOVING ON INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP

Your past relationship ended, you tried so hard to make it work and despite all your efforts it didn’t work out. You are going through feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, regret and the worst of all pain. You are heartbroken.

What is your next move?

WOULD YOU?

Avoid the pain by getting distracted?
Cave in with all the memories of the past?
Talk about your breakup for the upcoming weeks?
Beat yourself up?
Bottle up your emotions and move on?
Avoid feeling lonely by finding someone else’s company?
Cry and be sad?

Whatever it is that you do next is ok BUT before you move on to a new relationship you must make sure you are property healed from the breakup.

Why?

Because not properly healing from a breakup is the recipe for a bad relationship, you will basically start the relationship with a broken foundation.

It’s no different from physically getting hurt and not being able to return to work or anything else until being properly healed because you can’t perform 100%. By not giving your body the proper time to heal you not only make it more weak but you also delay the healing.

When going through a breakup you are emotionally hurt and you need to give your emotions the proper time to heal so they can perform 100% in the next relationship!

When not emotionally healing properly you bring the pain, anger, sadness, guilt, regret, etc to your new relationship like baggage. Imagine coming back from a beach trip, not unpacking your luggage then taking that same luggage to a mountain trip. Would it be useful to you?

This is what you do when you start a relationship without properly healing. You bring baggage into your new relationship that will sabotage the success of it.

For example:

What would you do if a person is constantly doubting you?
You either:

Leave, (because the energy doesn’t match) or,
At some point you will give that person a true reason to doubt you (by matching the person’s energy – energy attracts like energy)

Another example:

By not dealing with the trust issues that caused the end of your previous relationship, you then will have trust issues and be defensive with someone that might not have intentions in lying to you. Similar to the previous example: by you bringing this energy into the new relationship you either: