How to trust again

How hard is it to trust again?

We live in a world where going through pain is part of our lives.

How does your body instantly reacts to not touch fire for example, this is because you have a built-in defense mechanism that always wants to avoid experiencing pain.

Subconsciously, we abuse this defense mechanism by trying to hard to avoid both physical and emotional pain. Think about it, would you purposely touch the fire? or would you open your heart after being hurt?

As a result from avoiding physical pain, you might have developed fears that paralyze you and even cause you anxiety when presented in certain situations. The same way when avoiding emotional pain, you might have developed a fear that keeps your heart close.

Through my long journey of finding my soulmate I discovered that emotional pain is unavoidable, no matter how hard you try to control the relationship you are in.

I also discovered that there is no such thing as controlling your life, you can only control yourself, the way you think and react.

So,

If there is no way to really avoid it, what then would be a more empowering way to deal with pain? Why is there pain at all?

After we go through pain, we tend to grow, evolve and transform. We hit rock bottom and then we are determined to get back up.

Through pain the Universe or the Creator teaches you a lesson you need to overcome to get to your next level based on your desires and what your goals are.

What then would be a more empowering way to deal with pain?

Try to learn the lesson as soon as you see the first sign. Take your time to analyze and question the situation.

For example:

If you feel your boyfriend isn’t being honest, take action! Challenge your thoughts until you are 100% sure of what is really going on. Maybe there is something in you that is triggering his reaction. If you ignore your feelings, avoid confronting the situation and even worse not changing what could be triggering him, you’re setting yourself up for even more pain. The pain of the lie later on is going to be greater than the disappointment of proactively confronting the issue earlier on.

I will leave you with this question:

How can you proactively look for lessons to learn in your life?

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